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Comment on Helicopter Parenting by Vered

Vered — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 17:24:05 +0000

Hi Tamar,

I didn’t realize that these parents are in face anxious and that this is what causes their behavior. Thank you for the info and for mentioning your book.

Comment on Helicopter Parenting by Tamar Chansky

Tamar Chansky — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 01:54:30 +0000

You are so right on every count. Don’t you think that the solution is to address the overwhelming anxiety these parents are experiencing (about the future–uncertainty– which means with the mess we’re in now, only more helicoptering to come). The more that they can handle their own anxiety the less they will act on it by micromanaging every step of their children’s lives….

I am a child anxiety specialist, but I also just wrote a book which is my version of the antidote to helicoptering– helping parents be grounded, not afraid of failure, disappointment, bad days etc. If you’re interested its: Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a LIfetime of Resilience, Flexibility and Happiness.

Tamar Chansky
Freeing Your Child

Comment on Bullying: How To Help Your Child by Vered

Vered — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 23:55:07 +0000

Hi Jenny, thank you for suggesting the book. Role playing sounds like an excellent way to help children cope with bullying.

Comment on Bullying: How To Help Your Child by Jenny Mannion

Jenny Mannion — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 18:53:42 +0000

Hi Vered,
When my son in kindergarten came home complaining of a bully my mom got him an excellent book “The Bully Blockers Club” by Theresa Bateman. My husband and I also did some role play with both children on what to do if they are being bullied. It is a very important topic for parents to discuss with children. Thank you for featuring it!
Gratefully,
Jenny

Comment on Teacher Gifts On A Recession Budget by Squawkfox

Squawkfox — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 15:53:56 +0000

Thank you so much for the jarring gifty mention! I love the idea of giving some office supplies. I have a few friends who teach and they often buy these supplies out of their own pocket for their class.

Comment on Prepare Your Kids For A Smaller Holiday by Yuval

Yuval — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 16:38:37 +0000

I completely agree. Moreover, I think that the cost of a present is more of an adult thing. Kids often enjoy and play with low cost presents as much as with expensive ones (unfortunately, after a month of gaming, no one is touching our wii anymore). Like you mention, what could be better than a fortress of boxes

Comment on Black Friday Violence: What Message Are We Sending Our Kids? by Yuval

Yuval — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 05:30:25 +0000

What happened at Walmart is a shocking tragedy and I agree that it should have gotten some more attention. However, I disagree with tying it to advertisers or to consumerism. Both advertising and consumerism are positive in my opinion and part of the American culture. Blogging about the tragedy is so important and I thank you for letting people know about it but making the link to advertisers overlooks millions who has not pushed a single person during Black Friday and millions of employees who are have a job thanks to our good and bad consumption habits.

Comment on Building Your Child’s Confidence Is Good, But Too Much Confidence Is Damaging by Vered

Vered — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 18:21:59 +0000

It IS tough. I always find it interesting when non-parents say things like “how hard can it be, people have been doing it forever”, because YES IT’S HARD, especially when you’re trying to do a good job.

Comment on Spending Time Online Is Good For Teens by Vered

Vered — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 18:20:25 +0000

@ bubbledumpster: OK, longer than 9 months obviously, but I’ve been using the internet as a publishing and socializing tool for 9 months.

Comment on Spending Time Online Is Good For Teens by bubbledumpster

bubbledumpster — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 16:08:09 +0000

YOU’VE ONLY BEEN ON THE INTERNET FOR NINE MONTHS!?!?!?!?